- something lovely my therapist said (via jeanprouvair)
One of the responses I get when I tell people this is some variation of “No, this is a messed up thing for me to feel.” This is because they haven’t distinguished between feelings and beliefs; they may be feeling those feelings because their beliefs lead them to feel that way, and yeah, beliefs can be busted as hell. The feelings, however, are always valid. Even if they’re inconvenient, unpleasant, or threatening. For example, if you feel angry and sad and scared because you believe you’re a worthless pile of trash, that is a busted belief and needs to be gotten rid of. The feelings are still valid, though.